The Story of Change of female condom user Ayozie
“It brings more closeness between us”
“I read about the female condom in a magazine a long time ago and it made me curious about it, but I did not know it was also available in my country. Then one day an instructor of female condoms approached me and gave me a female condom for free and told me to try it out. I did not hesitate to do so.
It was not difficult to convince my partner to use the female condom, because it was just a change from using a male condom and she was also curious about it. The first time was a bit uncomfortable, because we did not insert the female condom properly. But that did not stop us trying it another time. The second try we got it right. Since that moment we always use a female condom.
Introducing the female condom to my girlfriend really spiced up our romance and increased our love. When I help her to insert the female condom, it brings more closeness between us. It has offered us a unique romantic lifestyle. Most people in Nigeria prefer the male condom, but I disagree with them. When we were using the male condom, it seemed more artificial and sometimes it slipped off. This is why we abandoned the male condom and made the change to the female condom.
What motivates me to use the female condom is the satisfaction and uniqueness of it. It has made me not to think about sex without using protection against unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases. Now I am also an advocate for female condoms amongst my friends and colleagues. I will continue to share my experiences with them to create awareness for female condoms.
My name is Ayozie and I use the female condom!”
The Story of Change of female condom user Esther
“Female condoms help us live a better life”
Esther, 19 years
Delta State, Nigeria
“A small crowd gathered by the busy junction. Despite the heat everyone seemed interested in some unfolding drama. I inched closer to see a woman in the middle of the crowd, holding and talking animatedly about something…
It was a female condom! Listeners stood in rapt attention while my mind wandered to the female condom I received at the hospital during my daughter’s vaccination. The nurse had not explained how to use it. This was an opportunity to learn how to use the female condom. I eagerly joined the crowd.
The spectators chuckled as the lady used an object shaped like a woman’s private part to demonstrate how to use a female condom. It seemed simple. She explained that the female condom is good for family planning and that it can be very pleasant to use as well.
My husband and I had talked about family planning after our daughter’s birth. I had been using daily pills but they caused some rather uncomfortable internal body heat. That evening, with the female condom from the hospital in my hand, I told my husband about my experience at the junction. He kindly supported trying the female condom.
Next morning my concerned husband asked me how I had experienced having sex. Our first time with a female condom was not painful. It only felt different. We continued to use female condoms and it has been enjoyable ever since!
My husband and I value anything that will help us live a better life. The female condom is inexpensive and enjoyable to use. Most of all, after two years of using it, I did not get pregnant again. I stopped using the pills and the internal heat stopped. I was inspired to tell my neighbour who finally started using female condoms as well. Now she is grateful to me.
My husband is now able to plan and save money so that we can give our children the quality education that we did not have access to. This is important to us. He is also saving to open up a chemist shop for me where I also can sell female condoms and show people how to use them. I look forward to impacting lives the way the female condom has impacted mine.
My name is Esther and I use the female condom!”
The Story of Change of female condom user Funmilayo
“We do not quarrel over sex anymore”
Funmilayo, 29 years
Lagos State, Nigeria
“Being a highly fertile lady and a young mother of four children, I have had my share of concerns about going through pregnancy without giving my body appropriate time to rest. There is also the issue of providing quality care for the children especially because in Nigeria today, specifically in Lagos State where I live, prices have risen for everything!
One day a family planning educator came to my hairdressing salon to talk about female condoms. My colleagues and I really wondered how it would work and she patiently taught us how to use it. She was right when she said that using the female condom will help to prevent quarrels and troubles in my home. We would be able to protect ourselves and still enjoy ourselves without limitation.
I was optimistic about this message and I shared it with my husband. He agreed to use the female condom and we tested it. Suffice it to say, we have been using female condoms ever since that night. Female condoms are very good. There are no side effects, as was the case when I was using pills. I am not worried anymore about getting pregnant. The best thing for me is that I actually really enjoy sex more with the female condom. I am more confident.
Family planning educators continued coming around us to teach us about female condoms, now we have mastered the way it is worn and how it is used. I am even able to teach my relations and friends how to use the female condom. My husband is more loving towards me since we do not quarrel over sex anymore. He is also more generous with financing the family’s upkeep.
Female condoms are like ‘flesh-to-flesh’. My husband and I truly enjoy sex with the female condom. One day he said to me that if we had known earlier, we would have started using female condoms since.
My name is Funmilayo and I use the female condom!”